Everyone has arguments. We argue with our husbands and wives, with our kids and colleagues, even that rude stranger as we are caught with in traffic. Arguments are how we express frustration, but also our ideas and our opinions. Whilst most of us associate conflict with arguments, not all arguments involve confrontation; some are positive experiences or debates where ideas are criticized and people learn.
Regardless of the style or tone of an argument, the ability to argue in itself is a skill. You can probably think of at least one person in your life that has a magic way with words; they may be able to calm and defuse a conflict with just a sentence or change your mind in a heartbeat. These people, whether they are aware of it or not, use a mixture of psychology and logic to their advantage. They may have an uncanny idea to articulate themselves clearly and concisely, or they might be able to tailor what they say and how they say it to have their words resonate with you.
Likewise, popular politicians or famous leaders have a miraculous ability to argue and convince. These figureheads are trained in how to disarm, charm and sway minds and they exploit tried and tested techniques to convince and persuade. These powerful orators know how to enter a debate and tackle points head on, winning the hearts and minds of the public in the process through the sheer power of their words. Even without entering a formal debate, these leaders know the little things that make a difference; the power of a handshake, a touch, a smile, word choice and more.
This article is devoted to exploring and learning about the underlying skill involved in argumentation, in all its layers and depth. As we dissect why arguments happen and what makes arguments good, you will pick up skills along the way.
